How to Prepare Your Child for the First Day of School

A complete guide to help parents prepare children of all ages for starting school with confidence and ease.

1. Build excitement about school. Start talking about school in positive, exciting ways several weeks before the first day. Read books about starting school together and watch age-appropriate videos about what school is like. Drive or walk past the school and point out fun things like the playground. Share your own positive school memories and talk about all the new friends they'll make and interesting things they'll learn. For older children starting a new school, focus on the opportunities for growth and new experiences.
2. Practice the school routine. Begin adjusting your child's sleep schedule 1-2 weeks before school starts to match school hours. Practice the morning routine including waking up, getting dressed, eating breakfast, and gathering school supplies. Time these activities so you know how long they take and can plan accordingly. For younger children, practice using the bathroom independently and washing hands. Role-play school activities like sitting for story time, following directions, and raising their hand to speak.
3. Visit the school beforehand. Take advantage of any orientation events, open houses, or playground visits the school offers. Walk through the building if possible, showing your child their classroom, the cafeteria, library, and bathrooms. Meet the teacher if you can and take photos of important locations to review at home. For children switching schools, arrange a tour during a regular school day if possible so they can see students in action.
4. Prepare school supplies and clothing. Let your child help choose and organize their school supplies, backpack, and first-day outfit. Practice using any new items like lunch boxes, water bottles, or folders. Label everything clearly with your child's name. Lay out clothes the night before the first day to reduce morning stress. Make sure your child can manage their clothing independently, including jackets, shoes, and any fasteners.
5. Address fears and concerns. Ask your child what they're wondering or worried about regarding school. Listen carefully and validate their feelings while providing reassurance. Common concerns include being away from parents, using the bathroom, making friends, or getting lost. Problem-solve together and remind them that teachers are there to help. Create a special goodbye ritual or give them a small comfort item if the school allows it.
6. Plan for separation. Practice short separations beforehand with trusted caregivers, playdates, or activities. Keep your goodbye brief and positive on the first day - lingering can increase anxiety for both of you. Remind your child when you'll pick them up using concrete terms they understand. For younger children, this might be 'after snack time and playground' rather than '3 PM.' Stay calm and confident, as children pick up on your emotions.